November 2018 Meeting

We began with a reading from Kabat-Zinn's 'Coming To Our Senses' :

'Meditation is not about trying to get anywhere else. It is about allowing yourself to be exactly where you are and as you are, and for the world to be exactly as it is in this moment as well...That doesn't mean that your aspirations to effect positive change, make things different, improve your life and the lot of the world are inappropriate. Those are all very real possibilities. Just by meditating, by sitting down and being still, you can change yourself and the world. In fact, just by sitting down and being still, in a small but not insignificant way, you already have.' (p 61)

Kabat-Zinn goes on to explain this apparent paradox by saying:

'We need to develop and refine our mind and its capacities for seeing and knowing, for recognising and transcending whatever motives and concepts and habits of unawareness may have generated or compounded the difficulties we find ourselves embroiled within, a mind that knows and sees in new ways, that is motivated differently. This is the same as saying we need to return to our original, untouched, unconditioned mind.' (p 62)

Our practice was build upon the practice of 'Spacious Awareness' taken from the 'Mindfulness Daily' series guided by Jack Kornfield and Tara Brach.This practice helps to open up, expand, allow more space for a mind which otherwise can easily contract, concretise, and limit  awareness. The first 10/15 minutes was spent forming intention, settling, focusing on the breath in the body. The next 15 minutes attention was moved to awareness of sound ... this awareness opens up the experience of sounds coming and going, arising, passing across awareness, and leaving. Awareness is likened to the sky - vast - with sound, like clouds, passing across. We moved to awareness of thought/images coming and going in space/awareness ... pleasant, unpleasant, neutral... Then to body sensations, emotions - held in awareness - in a vast sky, passing, changing. The practice ended with opening the quality of spaciousness to loving awareness for all beings.

The practice was followed by enquiry, opening up to broader enquiry of bringing mindfulness into our daily lives.

We ended with a brief version of Germer's 'Centering Meditation', taken from 'The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion' ((p.260-261). This is a securalized version of a meditation drawn from the 14th century, discovered in a Trappist monastery in Massachusetts. The meditation is designed to open our hearts and minds to inner guidance that is beyond our usual habits of thought, allowing personal words or phrases of supportive love to arise and become the focus of attention, before returning once more to the breath.

October 2018 meeting

After a two month break we began with a a practice based on Jack Kornfield's 'Mindfulness: The Core Practice' taken from the 'Emotional Healing' section of the Sounds True 'Mindfulness Daily' (NB highly recommended as a 40 day, 10 minute a day guided programme). This particular practice is about " the power of mindfulness and kind attention (loving awareness) to notice experience just as it is - with a spacious, non-judgemental attention."

It 'simply' uses the anchor of the breath and/or chosen body anchor to open up to the whole play of experience in an inclusive way. Once established and steadied with the breath, the practice moves to the experience of sound before widening further to the waves of emotion, physical sensation and thought, acknowledging and allowing before returning to the breath or body focus, and always returning to the breath/breath&body anchor if overwhelmed. The practice closes with attention back to the breath.

This was followed by enquiry - around the practice itself and beyond. We shared obstacles and the value of diversity of practice, especially in emotionally turbulent times, personally and universally. We discussed the value of short practices, of movement practices such as mindful walking, and of not falling into self-criticism when it's tough to do much at all by way of formal practice. 'Informal' moments during a tricky day still count towards reminding us of the present moment, its small joys and kindnesses shown amidst sorrow, and of life's impermanence and of our shared humanity - even in the apparently dark midst.

We shared recent encounters with the mindfulness 'world' - Ruby Wax's 'How to be Human' book/show and the recent Sounds True 'Waking up in the World' online event. The latter took at wide ranging look at social & political activism, taking a broader world context for mindfulness, following individuals' drives and motivations to bring about a fairer, more just and sustainable world.

Our closing practice was taken from den Brink's and Koster's 'Mindfulness-Based Compassionate Living' - 'The Breathing Space with Compassion - Coping with Emotional Pain' (p.81).This is a compassion-based variation of the 'coping' version of the 3 minute Breathing Space developed by Segal, Williams and Teasdale in their well-known 'Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy for Depression' (2013). In this version the practice has: phase 1)  Being present with open, kind awareness; phase 2) Allowing a soothing breathing rhythm  (to increase vagal tone and heart rate variability (HRV) to foster compassion) and phase 3) Allowing compassion to flow to the body and to the emotional pain - broadening from self to others if applicable.

 

 

June 2018 meeting

Today we began with a practice drawn from Jack Kornfield's and Tara Brach's 'Mindfulness Daily' programme (Sounds True).

This practice is the initial practice of the first section of the programme, entitled 'Mindfulness Basics'. These first practices encourage the building of basic mindfulness skills, attitudes and approaches. in this one, 'Pausing for Presence', that moment of remembering or awakening to presence is acknowledged and developed. Without the 'coming to' of that pause we can continue in our daily habitual routines of un-awareness, non-stop chatter, thinking, judgement and emotional turmoil. We need to 'find the gap' as Pema Chödron sometimes describe it. So applying this in our daily lives has huge significance - without it we can be mindful on the cushion but mindless throughout the day.

So the practice is really a 'coming to' practice -  practiced by taking a seating, lying or standing position - but it could be an 'off the cuff' practice done anywhere -  acknowledging being awake, for a moment being still, with an attitude of gentleness. Noticing the state of our being, taking a full, deeper breath, and feeling the sensation of the exhalation - in the tummy, chest, throat or nostrils. Letting our normal breathing resume, and gently allowing the body to let go and relax, supported by the chair or ground beneath, and noticing in this pause the feelings in our body (cold, tense, hot..) and noticing without judgement. Also noticing the state of the heart just as it is - racing, quite, uplifted, sad.. Mindfulness holds it all. Just noticing being here, right now, just as it is. 

This practice provides the opportunity to introduce presence and spaciousness into any moment, stepping out of autopilot, and providing an opportunity for greater clarity and wiser action.

We followed the practice with enquiry and broader discussion around the challenges of keeping a mindfulness practice going and of remaining mindful in our busy, crammed lives. Here an attitude of understanding that this is a challenge for all, that harsh judgement just perpetuates any sense of failure, and that beginning again in any moment is always there for us, as long as we have breath.

We then discussed Rick Hanson's teaching from Advice for Difficult Time ( Sounds True) - using his particular blend of Buddhist and neuro-scientific wisdom. He describes that whilst suffering is inevitable, there are three strong ways to work with and alleviate our individual responses to being in the world. Firstly, to accept and be with what arises - staying with, rather than trying to escape from. Secondly, working on reducing our ingrained habit of dwelling on the negative in our thinking and in our lives. Thirdly, acknowledging the positives in our lives - bringing them more to centre stage as it were. His active metaphor for this is 1)first view the garden 2) pull up the weeds 3) plant flowers. Simple, but a way of compressing core ideas in a vivid image.

We closed with another practice taken from 'Mindfulness Daily'. This time it was a simple breath practice - foundational but revolutionary in encompassing presence, awareness of body and breath in body, patience and kindliness in returning to the breath again and again.

 

 

 

July 2018 meeting

We started with a practice drawn from 'The Pema Chödrön Audio Collection' (Sounds True, 2004). 

The one chosen was a mindfulness awareness practice, where the attitude is one of unconditional friendliness and 'learning to let go'. Certain 'techniques' are first described:

1. The posture, embodying balance, allowing the energy to flow through the body, the heart and mind to open. In this practice the eyes are encouraged to be open, to help work with any obstacles that may present themselves. The mouth is slightly open, to help relax the face and neck. The whole idea is to 'minimise the sense of struggle'.

2. The object -  here the out-breath. The in-breath is regarded as a pause before the out-breath which is a relaxing and softening out. We are just 'to be with the breath in a light and relaxed way'.

3. How to work with our thoughts. When they arise (this isn't wrong, it's the nature of mind to think) the instruction is not to get rid of thoughts but also not to grasp or judge. We can say to ourselves 'thinking' and then let go, it's 'not a big deal' -  coming back to the out-breath - until, once again, noticing when we have wandered off, and gently, once more coming back. We may label the kind of thinking - 'worrying', 'planning', before opening once again to the present moment.

We continued this practice for 15 - 20 minutes, always coming back, softening, relaxing, letting go, with gentleness and openness.

To close the practice, a description of 'Beginners Mind' was read from Kabat-Zinn's 'Full Catastrophe Living'. Here is a section: " Whatever the particular technique we might be using, whether it is the body scan, the sitting meditation or the yoga, we should bring our beginner's mind with us each time we practice so that we can be free of our expectations based on our past experiences. An open, "beginner's mind" allows us to be receptive to new possibilities and prevents us from getting stuck in the rut of our own expertise, which often thinks it knows more than it does. No moment is the same as any other. Each is unique and contains unique possibilities. Beginner's mind reminds us of this simple truth." (p. 35)

We followed the practice with some rich enquiry, sharing practice obstacles (such as sleeping, drifting off) and reactions to 'different' instructions such as having palms facing up and eyes open and to the idea of 'labelling' thoughts. 

We then had general enquiry and discussion around practice length and practice preferences. The ways in which we variously hold emotion in our bodies was shared. Once more, the relationship between 'formal' and 'informal' practice was discussed. We were reminded of the value of the 3 minute breathing space as a portable way of literally carrying practice into daily life.

We closed with a short sitting body scan. 

March 2018 meeting

We began with a practice drawn from Tara Brach entitled 'Spacious clear awareness' (tarabrach.com). The practice begins with attention on posture, stillness, then intention, followed by awareness of breath (lengthening and letting go) and a short body scan from the top of the head to the feet and contact with the ground, with awareness of all sensation, opening and softening to all that is present within the body. Then there is opening to awareness of sound, within and without, near and far, arising and disappearing, with a spacious awareness. The practice then moves to an awareness of all that arises - sound, sensations, feelings, thoughts.... noticing the changing flow of life moving through. The movement of the breath (at the nose, chest or belly or whole body breathing ) can always be held in the foreground of awareness - to stabilise and anchor. Whenever the mind is carried into thoughts, just noticing and opening back into presence ... to an 'awake awareness' with a relaxed and open attention. To close, feeling the breath in the foreground and opening the eyes, being open to experience outside and allowing awareness of the senses to extend beyond the practice.

We followed with enquiry  - one reflection was that this 30 minute practice allowed a little more time to deepen into the practice - where shorter practices possibly do not. We discussed the practice length 'question' ( a common theme amongst novice and experience practitioners alike !) and feelings were generally that rigidity and judgement about rights and wrongs around this were unhelpful - lots of individual differences, variations, variability over time etc. There was discussion around the difference of starting a body scan at the head or the feet - the latter possibly has a more immediate 'grounding' effect, bringing us out of the 'headiness' where we usually reside ! whilst starting with the head perhaps brings us early on to precisely an awareness of our 'head space' but this time with attention on our senses and felt experience - rather than habitually going to our thinking minds - and all the 'baggage' that goes with these.

We reflected on the value of experimentation within our practices, and of 'mixing and matching' - something that comes more easily as we get beyond that fixation with having to practice in a particular way, at a particular time and in a particular place, maybe using a set recording etc - all of which can of course establish and strengthen practice but patterns which can eventually become limiting in themselves. There's also the importance of carrying practice through into our daily lives. Formal practice (when we deliberately sit etc. to practice) is distinguished from 'informal' practice  - but both are usually considered vital in bringing mindful presence into our lives. In a talk broadcast on Sounds True recently, Eckhart Tolle said,

  '...there's the example of the meditator man who is meditating on Mette, a Buddhist meditation called lovingkindness where you spread lovingkindness out from you... It may go something like, "May I be well and happy" ... And the words are used as pointers so that you emanate peace you can feel yourself.... And then you include the next circle: "May everybody in this house be well and happy" .... Gradually you expand. "May everybody in this state be well and happy - in this country, the entire planet" .... Anyway, this man was practicing the metta lovingkindness meditation and then the door opened and his daughter came running in. And so he opened it and said, "Can't you see I'm doing my meditation? Get out of here. Every day you disturb me while I'm doing this to close the gap between the practice and living". So if you are a meditator or if you take up meditation, beware of that.' (from 'Opening to the Depths of the Present Moment' from Sounds True 'The Mindfulness and Meditation Summit, 2018). 

In his 'Wherever you go there you are', Kabat-Zinn has a great little chapter entitled 'Going Upstairs' where he desc ribes realising he could use this everyday activity as an opportunity to practice mindfulness:

'When I am able to capture this wave of energy in awareness while I am still at the bottom of the stairs or starting on my way up, I will sometimes slow my ascent - not just one step at a time, but really slow, maybe one breath cycle per step, reminding myself that there is really no place I have to go and nothing I have to get that can't wait another moment for the sake of being fully in this one' (p.202).

In 'The Miracle of Mindfulness' Thich Nhat Hanh says,

'While washing the dishes one should be washing the dishes, which means that while washing the dishes one should be completely aware of the fact that one is washing the dishes. At first glance that might seem a little silly: why put so much stress on a simple thing. But that's precisely the point. The fact that I am standing there and washing these bowls is a wondrous reality. I'm being completely myself, following my breath, conscious of my presence, and conscious of my thoughts and actions. There's no way I can be tossed around mindlessly like a bottle slapped here and there on the waves.'(pp 3-4)

Now this kind of daily living practice can indeed at first sight appear a bit 'silly' - but it does seem that, as with a formal practice that deepens, and brings clarity and possibly wisdom - so this kind of informal activity of daily living practice can also deepen one's appreciation of the intrinsic beauty of simple, ordinary things - and bring us back into presence with what is here - right now.

As mindfulness is brought ever further into all areas of western life, so apparently is the realisation that for some, a formal daily practice may not work as well as moment-to-moment practices - in the field of addiction, for instance, there is evidence that introducing informal practice (in this case via app-base training) into daily life was more effective in helping smokers to quit than a formal practice - which was introduced later. (Judson Brewer 'The Craving Mind' - interviewed on Sounds True 'The Mindfulness and Meditation Summit (2018)

We closed with ''The breathing space with kindness', taken from den Brink's and Koster's 'Mindfulness-Based Compassionate Living' (p 49)